Ok,so maybe i should take my time and start to "learn" my fingers the shortest way from one chord to another in order to improve my speed.How much did it take you to start singing songs?
I haven't even tried singing,at least not outside of my own head..Trust me...NO ONE wants to hear that,especially me.LOL...
I'll say this,though,and almost ashamedly:I was stuck where you are,on phase 1 for nearly 2 months.It seemed like I had to put my fret fingers through contortions,to find those first 3 chords...When I first felt I had them down well enough to attempt the minute changes,I measured my BPMs 2 ways...1st,as fast as I could,regardless of how badly it sounded,and boy did it ever sound bad.2nd,as fast as I could while hitting then cleanly..There was a diference of about 15 BPM,until I slowed down and only concentrated on the clean strums.Now I can get 80+ BPM on A-E and A-D..E-D is still in the upper 60s..
When I got all 3 consistantly above 40,(counting A-E as 1)I moved on to phase 2,and was a very happy to see those chords,the minors go MUCH quicker.2 weeks and I was learning the phase 3 C and G,all the while practicing what came before.
Now,probably a month after beginning phase 3,I only am practicing the Phase 1&2 chords while "playing around" after my structured practice time,or with the strumming patterns.I currently devote my minute change practice time to the C,G with each other and the "7" chords from stage 4 and 5...
Sorry for being so long winded,but my point was to show how I was where you are a very short time ago and to stress just KEEP at it....It will come...